Apart from the romantic aspect of chocolates, roses and cards, which is so commercialised, it can also remind us of our only great choice in life that of living a life based on love or a life based on fear. In our coaching sessions with clients, we invariably find ourselves exploring this theme in some shape or form as it is one that confronts us all as humans.

Einstein said many years ago, "Everyone has two choices.We are either full of love or full of fear."

Leunig echoed this when he wrote in The Age -

There are only two feelings: Love and Fear

There are only two languages: Love and Fear

There are only two activities: Love and Fear

There are only two motives, two procedures, two frameworks, two results: Love and Fear, Love and Fear.

Although we make many decisions each day, the choice for which we are ultimately responsible is always the same - it will come down eventually to the love or fear paradigm. The question to ask ourselves to find out is: "Am I acting (responding) out of love or (reacting) out of fear in this situation?" Many clients admit that answering this question is a great shock to their ego. It does not take long for them to see, however, that the widespread disharmony in families, businesses, and society in general, (pride, guilt, adulation or blame) are evidence of how many people function from the fundamental paradigm of fear. 

If we recognise ourselves in the fear trap, can this be changed or are we simply unwitting and unwilling pawns in some (cosmic?) 'game' for the duration of our lives?

On-Purpose Partners explore this idea through helping people find their own personal Purpose in life. This seems to work, because it involves the other paradigm - that of love. Put simply, Purpose is a Matter of the Heart. The heart symbolises love and love is expressed through our Spirit and our Purpose. Purpose is our spiritual core and it is why we exist.  When clients realise this and apply this teaching to their own life, a shift is evident.  It is always a thrill to have the privilege of sharing the aha moment.

Unfortunately, our lives do not automatically default to the love choice and it is easy to slip back into the fear zone.  Recognizing this quickly when it happens, keeps you in the fear zone for shorter times because you can choose to step out of it.    

So, even though Valentines Day is over for a year, what it symbolizes is relevant every day of our lives.

Love who you are and are becoming. Love your Self!
Love the people in your Life. Love your spouse.
Love your kids. Love your neighbours. Love your co-workers.
Love your customers. Love your boss. Love your Work. Love the unloveable!

So what is your core motive when you respond and react to the stimuli that impact you day by day? It's your choice! It is not always a smooth and easy road, and it may not always go as you would like. However, you will know if you have chosen love, because within yourself you will experience peace.

PS If you have stayed with us this far, take another moment to read the poem below.

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centred - love them anyway

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish or ulterior motives - do good anyway

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies - succeed anyway

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow - do good anyway

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable - be honest and frank anyway

The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds - think big anyway

People favour underdogs but only follow top dogs - fight for the underdog anyway

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight - build anyway

People really need help but may attack you if you help them - help them anyway

Give the world the best you have got and you will get kicked in the teeth - give the world the best you have got anyway.

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Are you :
in the midst of a career change?
overwhelmed with busyness or business?
giving hopelessness and fear a foothold in your life?
finding it's lonely at the top?
making plans for the future?

Has the concept of the great choice of life struck a chord within you?
Have you answered 'yes' to any of these? If so, it's time for a coach!

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